Psychologist Fiona Travis tells us what we already knew: if you're a lawyer, or worse, a female lawyer, maintaining a relationship is really difficult. At least in that pop culture has it right.
In recent years, some of America’s most popular TV programs and films depicted lawyers winning in court but losing in love. A distortion of reality, or do lawyers really have problems building and sustaining relationships? Regrettably, the image is accurate.
It’s not that lawyers lack relationship-building skills. But, overworked, overburdened and squeezed by time – and now, the worst downturn in two decades – lawyers do exhibit communication and intimacy breakdowns peculiar to their education, their professional training and work environment.
Of course. Lawyers are used to micro-examining everything, and challenging what they hear. Many of them make their livings by litigating. But many more negotiate. So why is it that those negotiation skills seem to fail them in relationships? Or do they? I actually know a fair number of happily married lawyers (including women). Do the stereotypes lie?
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